The 12 Principles of a 5th Place

1. Listen to hear

I listen to hear, not to respond nor to understand.

2. At my core I am perfect

At my core I am perfect. Beautiful, complete, flawless, whole, intact, just right, great, wonderful. Perfect!

3. It’s always about me

It's always about me is about the opportunity to take responsibility for what I am feeling in the moment, without blaming, shaming, finding fault on the outside and with the other.

4. It starts with me

We have a desire to make the world a better place. How I do that starts with me. If I make my inner world a better place, I will make my outer world a better place too. It starts with me.

5. I am because I feel

Because I feel, I remember, because I remember, I have a history, because I have a history I have an identity. I am because I feel.

6. Heal the hole to make me whole

Scars from past experiences can feel like holes in the fabric of my being. By attending to these holes and clearing the feelings associated with them I become whole again. Heal the hole to make me whole.

7. Hook me to heal me

Each time I get hooked (or triggered, as it is also known) it’s an opportunity for me to look at the past experience, attend to the hurt and reveal the gift, thereby healing in the process. Hook me to heal me.

8. It’s never about me

If I upset, anger, or hook (trigger) someone else and I didn't mean to — it’s not about me. It’s about them. If I can stay centred and not react to their response I will be doing them a huge favour and assisting them to heal their emotional holes. It's never about me.

9. Accept and say “yes”

The only way to find out what life wishes to offer me, to help me grow and heal, is to accept and say “yes”. Accept and say “yes”.

10. Take the step that’s in front of me

When life feels overwhelming and there’s too much on the go, if I'm not sure what to do or where to start then I take the step that is in front of me. I do what is right here, right now. Take The Step That’s In Front Of Me.

11. Offer, don’t give

When I am tempted to give solutions to others without asking if they want my assistance - I assume they are helpless, that they need rescuing. If I can stop and offer my help, I acknowledge them as capable and resourceful beings who can choose to accept or not. Offer, don't give.

12. Accept what is

If I just pause and accept what I cannot change, what I have no control over, then maybe I will see the gift, the opportunity, the "it was meant to be this way" realisation. Accept what is.

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